Let me talk to you plain for a minute.
Thank you for reading this post, don't forget to subscribe!So many of us wake up every day chasing something. A title. A paycheck. A dream somebody else planted in us a long time ago. And somewhere in all that chasing… we forget to look in the mirror.
We forget that God already placed something inside us. A gift. A power. A calling. But life, pressure, expectations—they all pile up and distract us from who we’re really meant to be.
The Real Journey? It’s Coming Home to Yourself.
The path ain’t always smooth. Growth rarely is. But when you slow down long enough to tune into the voice inside you—when you stop running from the truth and start standing in it—you’ll begin to uncover what’s been there all along:
- That natural instinct you thought was “just a habit”? That’s your gift.
- That deep pull in your gut when something’s off? That’s your discernment.
- That fire in your spirit to keep going when others would quit? That’s your anointing.
God doesn’t make mistakes. And He didn’t start with you.
Legacy Ain’t About Loud. It’s About Lasting.
You don’t have to be the biggest name in the room to make the biggest impact. You just have to show up real, show up consistent, and show up in purpose.
God gave you a superpower for a reason. Don’t die with it buried.
You Can’t Lead With Power If You Don’t Know Who You Are
Let me tell you something I wish somebody had told me sooner.
I spent the better part of my early years—what I call the “make-or-break” stage, somewhere between 18 and 25—doing what most folks do: fumbling through life trying to figure out who I was while pretending like I had it all together.
Now I grew up in a religious family. Church on Sundays, prayers before meals, that whole setup. So naturally, when I felt that hunger inside of me—the one that felt like God Himself was stirring something up—I thought maybe I was supposed to be a preacher.
But that didn’t last long. I had to laugh at myself real quick. I lie, cheat, and steal just a little too much to be a good preacher.
So I thought, maybe politics was the route. But turns out I wasn’t good enough at lying, cheating, or stealing to make that work either.
Teaching? Man, that never stirred my spirit. It wasn’t about standing in front of a chalkboard or writing lesson plans. But even then, I felt God tugging at me—whispering that I was here for a reason. I just had no clue what that reason was or where to start.
So I wandered. I made moves, some right, a lot wrong. I played roles that didn’t fit. I walked roads that led nowhere. Until one day it hit me:
The first step to walking in purpose is knowing who you are.
Not who people think you are. Not who your resume says. I’m talking about your real traits. That inner wiring. The stuff God gave you before the world started layering on expectations.
When I finally slowed down and started identifying my traits—my drive, my resilience, my discernment, my ability to speak life into folks even when I’m tired myself—that’s when things shifted. That’s when my real power showed up. My superpowers didn’t live in some dream job or fancy title. They were already in me… just waiting to be recognized.
You won’t lead right until you live right. And you won’t live right until you know right—until you know you.
Don’t Get So Busy Doing That You Forget Who You Are Becoming.
This journey ain't about arriving perfect. It's about showing up real. It’s about learning how to walk in your traits, trust your wiring, and lead from the inside out.
You were designed with intention. Everything you’ve been through? All the mistakes, the detours, the doubt—it was shaping something. And now it’s time to stop running from it.
Because your purpose doesn’t start when people recognize you. It starts the moment you recognize yourself.
See, for a long time, I was out here overthinking every next step like I could strategize my way into purpose. I thought if I could just land the right title, make the right move, check the right box—I’d finally become who I was supposed to be. But all that chasing had me missing something bigger.
I had to let go.
Not give up—let go. Of the pressure. Of the noise. Of the ego. I stopped running my mouth in prayer long enough to actually sit still and listen. You know what they say—prayer is when you talk to God… meditation is when you let Him talk back.
And let me be real with you—I've done a whole lot of meditating. Sometimes I was even sober. (Yeah, I said it.)
But in that stillness… it hit me.
I ain’t no preacher. I ain’t built to stand in front of a class. Politics? Man, that ain’t me either. What I am is a man with no title but a message that won’t leave me alone.
That message is leadership.
Not the kind that needs applause or attention. But the kind that starts in the dark—when nobody’s watching. The kind that shows up in how you treat folks, how you raise your kids, how you keep walking when life tries to buckle your knees.
I realized I didn’t need to wear a label to walk in my calling. I just needed to own my story and lead from it.
You don’t have to be named “somebody” to mean something. You just gotta show up with truth, lead with purpose, and stay grounded in who you are.
So if you’re out there trying to find your next step—try sitting still first. Let God speak into the quiet you’ve been avoiding.
Because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do… is listen.
For a long time, I lived in a tug-of-war between who I was and who I pretended to be. Spent years trying to outrun my past—trying to outwork it, outtalk it, outrank it. Thought if I just stayed busy enough, dressed it up nice enough, nobody would notice the mess I was carrying.
But here’s what they don’t tell you: when you don’t deal with the dead weight, all you end up doing is dragging stink into every new chapter of your life.
See, I wasn’t addressing the real issue—I was just burying it.
And let me be clear: I’m not talking in metaphors. I’m talking about those traits we try to hide. The lies. The cheating. The stealing—literal or emotional. The part of us we hope nobody ever sees. I figured if I buried it deep enough, maybe it wouldn’t haunt me. But the truth? That stink seeps out. It lingers in your relationships, your leadership, your spirit.
We cover our demons with excuses. Justifications. Performance. We think if we do enough good, it'll outweigh the bad. But God ain’t asking for our performance—He’s asking for our honesty.
Here’s the shift:
You can’t lead with power until you get real with your past.
You’ve got to call your demons by their real names—not some Greek-sounding ghost out a horror movie. I’m talking about the demons named Lie, Cheat, and Steal. The ones that show up in your habits, your choices, your silence.
And when you’re finally ready to face them—not fight them, not fear them, but face them—that’s when the real alignment starts.
Because knowing who you are isn’t about shame. It’s about strategy.
Your traits are your compass. But your actions? That’s the engine. And when those two aren’t in sync, you’ll burn out trying to make progress that don’t stick. But when you get clear on who God made you to be—and you stop trying to prove something to everybody else—that’s when your actions start carrying divine weight.
So what’s the move?
📌 Stop covering. Start confronting.
📌 Stop performing. Start transforming.
📌 Own your wiring, own your walk—and lead from that place.
Because alignment ain’t about perfection. It’s about integrity—being whole in who you are and what you do.
Legacy don’t start when folks praise you. It starts when you stop pretending.
Matter of fact: Your real freedom starts the moment you stop hiding and decide to lead from the truth you’ve been running from.
Most folks out here are chasing a name, a label, a role—something to tell the world who they are. “I’m a Christian.” “I’m a Democrat.” “I’m an entrepreneur.” And look, those labels might carry meaning, but they ain’t your identity. They don’t define the fire God placed inside you.
I’ve seen too many people lose themselves trying to squeeze into titles that don’t fit. That’s how you get stuck—trying to be what the world says you should be, instead of becoming who you were born to be.
Real alignment? That’s when who you are and what you do finally match up. That’s when your God-given superpower gets activated. But as long as you’re busy chasing someone else’s title—religious, political, professional—you’re blocking your own blessing.
You ain’t just Black or white. You’re not limited to a pew or a party. You are purpose wrapped in skin. You’re designed to rise above categories and walk in calling. You were born for more.
You want to feel powerful? Then stop playing small. Stop trying to prove something to everybody else. Stop performing just to be accepted. Start getting honest with yourself.
Ask yourself:
🟠 Who did God create me to be before the world told me who I had to become?
🟠 What do I do that feels most aligned with who I am?
🟠 Where am I shrinking to keep others comfortable?
Because when you align who you are with what you do, everything shifts. Clarity shows up. Peace shows up. Power shows up. Not from ego—but from purpose.
And let’s be real: Legacy ain’t built on labels. It’s built on truth. On consistency. On character.
Don’t waste another year waiting for a title that fits. Walk boldly in the one God already gave you. Own it. Live it. Pass it down.
Because the world doesn’t need more titles—it needs more truth-tellers walking in purpose.
Your God-Given Superpower Ain’t Out There—It’s Already In You
Now, standing at the end of this journey through self-discovery and purpose, one truth shines clearly: the superpower we spend our lives chasing isn’t hidden in some distant opportunity or lofty title—it’s been quietly residing within us all along. In a world that constantly urges us to strive, to achieve, and to mold ourselves to external definitions of success, it’s easy to lose sight of the unique gifts and calling already planted in our hearts. But every detour, every stumble, and each moment of doubt has been gently guiding us back home to ourselves, reminding us of the power and potential that God placed in us from the very beginning.
Reflecting on the journey, we see how easy it is to wake up each day chasing something outside of ourselves—a promotion, a reputation, someone else’s idea of success—while neglecting the quiet voice within. We often forget to pause and look in the mirror, to recognize that we are each crafted with intention. The path to purpose does not start with a job offer or public applause; it starts the moment we turn inward and acknowledge who we truly are. It is about realizing that what we have been seeking externally has always lived in our own God-given traits—our instincts, our passions, our resilience. These intrinsic qualities are not accidents or afterthoughts; they are deliberate gifts from a Creator who makes no mistakes.
Reconnecting with our inner gifts can be a challenging road. For many of us, it takes years of wandering through roles and identities that don’t quite fit—trying on different titles like costumes, hoping one will finally feel like “us.” Just as the narrative above described the meandering early years of adulthood—dabbling in callings that felt almost right but never truly authentic—we too may find ourselves in a make-or-break phase of life feeling unmoored. We pursue paths that others set for us or chase dreams that impress on paper yet leave our spirits empty. And when those attempts fall flat, it’s tempting to feel lost or defeated. Yet these experiences aren’t wasted. Each wrong turn and dead-end job can become a valuable part of our story, serving to illuminate what does and doesn’t resonate with our spirit. Every misstep is a clue, every detour a nudge steering us back toward the core of who we are meant to be.
One of the most profound steps in this journey is the moment we stop running—from our past, from our doubts, from that persistent whisper of truth—and finally choose to listen. It often requires us to embrace stillness, a rare commodity in a noisy world. When we quiet the external clamor—the expectations of others, the pressure to perform, the relentless chase for validation—we create space to hear the guidance that has been there all along. In those moments of quiet reflection (or what some might call prayer or meditation), clarity begins to emerge. The individual in our story learned this by pausing the frantic search for a pre-defined purpose—letting go of the need to force a direction—and instead seeking divine direction in the silence. It was in that surrender that he discovered his true calling wasn’t about a conventional title or role, but about a message and mission that had been growing inside him through every experience he had weathered.
Acknowledging the truth of who we are also means facing the parts of ourselves we might rather keep buried. A powerful theme from the journey above is the necessity of confronting our personal demons—the habits and history we’re not proud of, the mistakes we hide behind a polished façade. We cannot walk fully in our purpose if we are dragging along the weight of unresolved guilt or shame. By calling those demons by name, by owning up to the lies we’ve told, the corners we’ve cut, or the pain we’ve caused (to others and to ourselves), we strip them of their power. This honest reckoning is not about self-condemnation; it’s about liberation. When we finally shine a light on the baggage we carry, we see it for what it is: lessons learned and proof that we’ve grown. In truth, our past failures and flaws can become part of the fuel for our purpose—reminding us to stay humble, to show empathy, and to lead with integrity.
This deep level of honesty paves the way for alignment—perhaps the most crucial element of stepping into your God-given superpower. Alignment means that what we believe and who we are on the inside is reflected by what we do and how we live on the outside. It’s the synchronization of our identity with our actions. When a person finally accepts their innate gifts and flaws alike, they can start making choices that honor their true self rather than choices that cater to an image or please the crowd. The transformation can be subtle at first: maybe you start speaking up where you once stayed silent because you know honesty is one of your gifts. Or perhaps you change career paths entirely, walking away from a high-status position that looked good to everyone else but felt hollow to you, in order to pursue work that truly ignites your soul. Such decisions are never easy, but they are deeply rewarding. Each step taken in alignment with our authentic self is a step toward the life we were meant to live—a life of purpose, impact, and fulfillment that no superficial accolade could ever match.
True leadership and influence, as highlighted by our journey, do not require a fancy title or a stage. We often think we need permission—a diploma, an ordination, an election win, some mark of approval from society—to make a difference or to live significantly. Yet the core message we have uncovered is that real leadership begins long before anyone is watching or applauding. It starts in the small, private moments: in how you treat the people around you when there’s nothing to gain, in the integrity of your choices when no one will find out if you cut corners. It’s in the lessons you impart to your children at home, the kindness you show to strangers, the resilience you display in the face of hardship. These quiet forms of leadership, rooted in living out your values, often speak louder and last longer than any public recognition. A title might command a momentary respect, but character earns enduring trust. When you lead from a place of inner conviction—grounded firmly in who you are and what you stand for—your influence is not only more genuine, it’s also more impactful.
At the heart of this entire discourse is a simple yet profound truth: you are enough as you are. You were “fearfully and wonderfully made,” with a distinct combination of talents, perspectives, and experiences that equip you for a purpose only you can fulfill. Recognizing this doesn’t breed complacency; instead, it fuels a confidence that is anchored in authenticity. It frees you from the exhausting cycle of constantly trying to prove yourself to others. Think about it—when you accept that your worth isn’t up for debate, that it isn’t contingent on the titles you hold or the accolades you’ve collected, you can finally direct all that energy toward what really matters. You can focus on growth, on service, on sharpening the skills and virtues that resonate with your calling. This shift in mindset is incredibly liberating. It allows you to walk into any room without wearing a mask or scrambling to impress, and simply be present and genuine. Genuineness, grounded in a sense of divine purpose, is magnetic. It encourages others to drop their own pretenses, creating a ripple effect of authenticity.
Legacy, we’ve come to learn, is not measured by how loudly our names are proclaimed, but by how deeply our values take root in the lives of others. The story and principles we’ve been unpacking illustrate that what endures is not the résumé we build, but the relationships we build; not the popularity we gain, but the principles we pass on. When you live and lead from your true self, you give others permission to do likewise. Children, friends, colleagues—they see the consistency and courage in a life led with integrity and it inspires them to examine their own lives. Over time, those small daily choices to stand in your truth compile into a powerful legacy. It might be the quiet mentor who shapes countless futures, the ethical leader whose influence sets a new standard in a company, or the devoted parent who raises the next generation with love and wisdom. These are the legacies that outlast any trophy or title. They are the kind of lasting impact that grows out of living in alignment with your God-given superpower.
Now, consider what all of this means for your own life. If you have been waiting for a sign, a perfect moment, or someone else’s endorsement to step into your calling, let this be the nudge that ends the wait. The experiences and insights shared here show that clarity about one’s purpose often arrives not in a flash of glory, but in a quiet revelation. It might be the subtle understanding that the thing you love doing—something you perhaps dismissed as insignificant—is exactly what the world needs from you. Or it could be the dawning awareness that a painful chapter of your past has equipped you with unique empathy and strength to help others facing similar struggles. Pay attention to those clues in your life; they are not coincidences but rather the threads of your destiny weaving together.
If there is one final takeaway from this journey, it is a call to action to live boldly and truthfully. We are each challenged to stop looking over our shoulder to see who’s watching or seeking the next pat on the back. Instead, choose to do the right thing, the authentic thing, even when it goes unnoticed by the crowd. Over time, those choices shape a life that speaks for itself. Imagine the peace of mind in knowing that who you appear to be in public is exactly who you are in private—no masks, no acts. That congruence is its own form of power: unshakeable, because it doesn’t depend on outside validation.
Ultimately, the journey to uncovering your God-given superpower has always been about peeling back the layers of pretense and pressure until you rediscover the original you—the you that has been there since the beginning, crafted with purpose and love. It’s about having the courage to heed that inner voice that’s been nudging you forward, and the faith to believe that you are equipped for whatever path it calls you to. It’s about embracing both the light and the shadow within you—your strengths and your struggles—and understanding that even the shadows have helped shape your character and your calling. Everything you need to impact the world meaningfully is already inside you, ready to be awakened and put to work.
So stand tall in who you are. The world might try to define you by your job, your background, or any number of superficial labels, but those labels cannot capture the whole truth of your identity or your potential. Only you, in partnership with the One who made you, can truly define that. Every day that you choose to live from that truth is a day you step further into your purpose. Every action you take in alignment with your genuine self lays another brick in the foundation of the legacy you are building. And as you continue forward, remember: Your superpower isn’t out there somewhere – it’s in you. It has been in you from day one. Use it well, and you won’t just change your own story—you’ll illuminate the path for others to do the same.
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